Communication Dojo 2-day Workshop in Los Angeles


Antioch University Los Angeles campus.
400 Corporate Pointe, Culver City, CA 90230

Saturday/Sunday October 21st/22nd, 10am to 5pm



 Transform your communication and you transform your life!


“I gained so many insights about myself and learned many skills on how to connect with people better. Now I have the wisdom and tools to achieve what my heart truly desires – connection. Thanks for the gifts, Newt.”
– “Communication Dojo Unleashed” Participant, June 2016, San Francisco



The quality of your life is largely governed by the quality of your relationships, and the quality of your relationships is largely governed by the quality of your communication – transform your communication and you transform your life!

Is there an important relationship in your life where you experience arguments or fights more often than you’d like, or where you just don’t get to experience a satisfying level of connection? We’re not just talking about intimate partnership – every relationship can benefit from bringing greater skill and awareness to how you communicate.

Do you long for meaningful, harmonious relationships at home and smooth, productive relationships at work? Is it sometimes a struggle to make those relationships a reality? Every disagreement provides opportunities to connect, to understand, and to collaborate, but it’s so easy to communicate in a way that completely misses out on these opportunities. Communication habits from childhood run on automatic pilot. Our habit might be to fight, to walk away, or throw up our hands in despair, or a mixture of all three. The good news is that communication habits can be changed, and new skills can be learned that transform relationships. If I am the common factor in all of my personal and professional relationships, then I can take action to improve all of those relationships, and that action starts with how I communicate.


When operating a vehicle most of us are vigilant and attentive because we know the risks involved. We took lessons on how to drive and we had to pass a test to be legally allowed to. However, many of us don’t bring the same vigilance or attentiveness to our relationships that we bring to driving a vehicle, and in most cases we certainly did no lessons or tests on how to “operate” within our relationships. The results of this are all around us – 50% of marriages in the USA end in divorce, often at great financial and emotional cost to the families involved, sometimes including an ongoing “cold war” between divorced parents. Many other couples stay together in spite of increasing friction and conflict, and decreasing trust, friendship, and intimacy.

Meanwhile, at work, hundreds of billions of dollars are lost from the US economy annually due to conflict. Fortunately, a growing number of people are realizing that communication skills are real, life changing, and can be learned. Come see for yourself at the Communication Dojo 2-day intensive in Los Angeles.

The Communication Dojo is a learning environment created by communication trainer Newt Bailey, who has been sharing “Connected Communication” (aka Nonviolent Communication (NVC) or Compassionate Communication) Whether you’re already a student of NVC or not, we all know that during moments of anger, upset, sadness, fear or frustration there’s a much increased chance of us falling into familiar ineffective communication habits. I’m talking here about the habits of blame, judgment, criticism, demands, threats, wrong/right thinking, shoulds, arguments and fights. I’m talking about communication that leads to disconnection and conflict – communication that takes your time and energy but does not give much in return. Lots of “sound and fury” (to quote Shakespeare) but not much of value for you or the other person.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. — Viktor Frankl, Neurologist & Psychiatrist

Your body probably tries to give you instant feedback when this happens – even before you get to the bigger signals like hot face, tight stomach, tensed muscles, increasing loudness of speech.

Would you like to increase your ability to pay greater attention to yourself in these moments – to create a pause in which you can choose more effective communication choices? And would you like to learn what these communication choices are? Over the course of this 2-day intensive you’ll get the chance to do just that – and to start connecting with other people in your area who are also interested in transforming how they communicate.


As soon as you concern yourself with the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weaken and defeat you.— Morihei Ueshiba, Founder of Aikido

Day 1:

  • Connection – What does it mean to be in connection, even if you don’t like what another person is saying or doing?
  • Kindness and Authenticity – “Honesty without compassion is cruelty” – Connection arises from a balance of kindness and authenticity.
  • Understanding what’s motivating us to do and say what we do and say.
  • Emotions explained – what are your feelings, including anger, trying to tell you?
  • The skill of Self-Connection – you can only communicate what’s going on with you if you know what’s going on with you
  • The ways we create disconnection and conflict
  • The ways we create connection, and resolve conflict
  • Getting “Connected Communication” in your bones so you’re more likely to reach for the communication tools you need when you most need them
  • Opening up the space to choose how you speak
  • Speaking from the heart – the “Communication IQ”
  • Empathic listening – the active practice of seeking to understand before responding

Day 2

  • Anger management vs Getting the message of anger
  • Fact or Opinion – Telling the truth means using language of Observation and Ownership
  • Asking for what you want, and the risk of hearing “No”
  • Transforming Enemy Images – if you view someone else as your enemy, they tend to live up to your expectations
  • Self-criticism and the connection to external conflict – and what to do about it.
  • How to create new habits and practices. Next steps

Some features of the Communication Dojo:
* Efficient use of class time to maximize learning
* High proportion of practice time in pairs – learning communication by communicating.
* Minimal reliance on “jargon” i.e. language that might be confusing or alienating for those not familiar with NVC.
* Little likelihood of people developing any sense of “Doing it wrong” or “Trying to do it right.”

Who’s it for? Everyone! From complete “beginners” to those with years of experience…
Experienced with NVC? – Do you sometimes find that your attempts to use NVC do not lead to the connection you want? Perhaps they even lead to greater disconnection? Or are you looking for a different kind of NVC learning environment for friends, family members, or colleagues you really want to introduce to the power and potential of NVC.
New to NVC? – Come try out the Communication Dojo. You’ll find that whatever your current approach to communication, you can start from that point and expand your range of options from there at a rate that suits you.


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