Welcome to the Communication Dojo

Newt Bailey

WELCOME! from Newt Bailey, founder of the Communication Dojo.

Contact: info@communicationdojo.com, (415) 694 8798

If fighting with words is not fun for you, or if you want a greater sense of connection, authenticity, and kindness in your most important relationships, you’ve come to the right place. Skillful communication is real and it’s learnable. It leads to real, […]


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Tuesdays – 4 week Committed Series – Working Together to Connect – San Francisco – starts April 8th, 2014

Tuesdays, 7.30pm to 9.30pm

April 8th, 15th, 22nd and 29th *plus* practice sessions between classes with other participants Location: San Francisco, Mission/Castro – private residence

SPECIAL FOCUS FOR THIS SERIES – Empathizing when it’s Hard to Empathize


Connected Communication means:

Asking for what you want, and being able to handle a “yes” or “no” […]


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Thursdays – Connected Communication Practice Group – San Francisco – starts April 10th, 2014

TO REGISTER - Contact sheryl@communicationdojo.com

The Thursday evening practice group is a 4-week commitment. It differs from the 4-week workshop series because rather than following a prescribed curriculum, we choose our areas of focus each night so as to best respond to the requests of those in attendance. I hear participants say frequently that working on […]


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Demonstrations and 1-on-1 Work with Newt, April 20th, 2014

This gathering is an opportunity to learn by watching demonstrations, and witnessing Newt working with participants one-on-one to

transform blame and judgments resolve inner conflicts recover and learn from painful conversations prepare for future conversations

The option will also be open for participants to step out of the main room to go practice skills or […]


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ARTICLE: Envy and jealousy

Let’s talk about envy and jealousy…

One definition of the difference is that envy happens when you wish you had something that someone else has, while jealousy is fear that something you have is being taken away by someone else. They can often occur together though, or be one big indistinguishable emotional soup.  And, for […]


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ARTICLE: Asking for what you want means being able to hear “No.” Here’s how I became more comfortable with that…

If you ask for things in life there’s a risk that you’ll hear “No.” If you ask someone out on a date, if you apply for a job, if you apply for a place in an apartment, or ask for a pay rise, there’s a risk that the other person will say “No.” And there […]


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ARTICLE: Investigating “You’re too needy”

Sometimes people talk about their “needs” when referring to what would be most enjoyable or least painful for them. The word “need” can have a certain connotation. Some would say that a “need” is a necessity for staying alive, like soil, water, and sunlight for most plants. However, in common usage the word “need” is […]


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ARTICLE: Fear of Empathy

Picture this… You’re talking with someone, things are tense, the other person starts saying things about you that you don’t agree with, perhaps things that bring up pain, defensiveness, or anger. Perhaps you’ve attended the Communication Dojo, or learned about empathy and other communication skills elsewhere, so theoretically you know that really hearing the other […]


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ARTICLE: Connection First

I give the name “Connected Communication” to the kind of communication I teach and attempt to use in my own life. The work is based on Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s “Nonviolent Communication (NVC),” which is often called “Compassionate Communication” – but I prefer to call it and think of it as “Connected Communication.” This name reminds […]


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ARTICLE: I don’t want to connect!

If you’re reading this you are probably interested in how you can change some relationship or other so that it’s more enjoyable, or less painful. Relationships are about communication; so learning different ways to communicate seems like a potentially useful place to put your attention, right? Then you read an article like Connection First and it tells […]


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