Welcome to the Communication Dojo

Newt Bailey

WELCOME! from Newt Bailey, founder of the Communication Dojo.

Contact: info@communicationdojo.com, (415) 694 8798

If fighting with words is not fun for you, or if you want a greater sense of connection, authenticity, and kindness in your most important relationships, you’ve come to the right place. Skillful communication is real and it’s learnable. It leads to real, […]


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Powerful Responses to Painful Self-Talk – August 9th, 2014

Is your main fight with yourself? Do you have a harsh inner voice that criticizes you, blames you for what’s wrong in your life or relationship, judges you negatively and predicts failure when you try anything new? Perhaps you also find yourself getting hurt or angry sometimes because others say things which trigger your own […]


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Tuesdays – 3 week Committed Series – “Feedback in the Workplace” – San Francisco – starts August 12th, 2014

Tuesdays, 7.30pm to 9.30pm

August 12th, 19th, 26th *plus* practice sessions between classes with other participants Location: San Francisco, Mission District – private residence

SPECIAL FOCUS FOR THIS SERIES – Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Workplace - Productive workplaces that are enjoyable to work in are places where co-workers have skill in giving and receiving […]


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Tuesdays – 4 week Committed Series – Working Together to Connect – San Francisco – starts September 2nd, 2014

Tuesdays, 7.30pm to 9.30pm

September 2nd, 9th, 16th, 23rd *plus* practice sessions between classes with other participants Location: San Francisco, Mission District – private residence


Connected Communication means:

Asking for what you want, and being able to handle a “yes” or “no” answer Having very few fights, and […]


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ARTICLE: Envy and jealousy

Let’s talk about envy and jealousy…

One definition of the difference is that envy happens when you wish you had something that someone else has, while jealousy is fear that something you have is being taken away by someone else. They can often occur together though, or be one big indistinguishable emotional soup.  And, for […]


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ARTICLE: Asking for what you want means being able to hear “No.” Here’s how I became more comfortable with that…

If you ask for things in life there’s a risk that you’ll hear “No.” If you ask someone out on a date, if you apply for a job, if you apply for a place in an apartment, or ask for a pay rise, there’s a risk that the other person will say “No.” And there […]


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ARTICLE: Investigating “You’re too needy”

Sometimes people talk about their “needs” when referring to what would be most enjoyable or least painful for them. The word “need” can have a certain connotation. Some would say that a “need” is a necessity for staying alive, like soil, water, and sunlight for most plants. However, in common usage the word “need” is […]


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ARTICLE: Fear of Empathy

Picture this… You’re talking with someone, things are tense, the other person starts saying things about you that you don’t agree with, perhaps things that bring up pain, defensiveness, or anger. Perhaps you’ve attended the Communication Dojo, or learned about empathy and other communication skills elsewhere, so theoretically you know that really hearing the other […]


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ARTICLE: Connection First

I give the name “Connected Communication” to the kind of communication I teach and attempt to use in my own life. The work is based on Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s “Nonviolent Communication (NVC),” which is often called “Compassionate Communication” – but I prefer to call it and think of it as “Connected Communication.” This name reminds […]


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ARTICLE: I don’t want to connect!

If you’re reading this you are probably interested in how you can change some relationship or other so that it’s more enjoyable, or less painful. Relationships are about communication; so learning different ways to communicate seems like a potentially useful place to put your attention, right? Then you read an article like Connection First and it tells […]


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