RESOURCE PAGE
Resources for Communication Dojo workshop participants, clients and other visitors!
Build Community:
Join the Facebook alumni page
Plan an Empathy call or meeting with a fellow Communication Dojo students:
Download the PDF Empathy Call Guidelines
Empathy call video demonstration
A video showing how you might use the Empathy Call Guidelines handout in an real-life empathy call. Please click here if you want to view it on YouTube at a larger size or even full-screen
NVC groups on Facebook
These are not groups I've used myself, so I cannot make a meaningful recommendation. However, I'm including links to them in case you'd like to investigate what they have to offer:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/onlineNVC/
"NVCa" for empathy, requests & support
https://www.facebook.com/groups/NVCbeginners/
"NVCb"This moderated group is only for: - people who want to get started with Nonviolent Communication - people clearly posting as themselves - named volunteers/trainers
https://www.facebook.com/groups/NVCparents/
"NVCc" For conversations about applying NVC with our own children, partner and parents - discussions, mutual support, fun, mournings and delights.
Exercises and Tools - Handouts, Videos, Audio:
Summary handout:
www.communicationdojo.com/summary
Feelings list (2-page):
www.communicationdojo.com/feelings
Needs list (1-page):
www.communicationdojo.com/needs
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Connected Conversation Process:
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Instructional Handout: www.communicationdojo.com/ccp
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Wording examples and what goes into a chunk:
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Discussion topics (can be used as the first chunk of the first speaker, or any time you're looking for a new topic to discuss)
Video:
You can find Connected Conversation Process videos here:
www.communicationdojo.com/videos
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Ladder Questions for Self-Connection:
See more at www.communicationdojo.com/ladderquestions
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Heart-Circle Template documents for Self-Connection (especially self-connection after anger):
Feelings and needs lists are recommended when using this tool. See links to these lists above.
Mourn, Celebrate, Learn Process for Self-Connection (especially in relation to your "Inner Critic"
Needs into Action
A simple exercise to help you get out of "fight or flight" mode
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Some people on YouTube have created short videos (5 mins approx.) to demonstrate exercises from the book The Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve by Stanley Rosenberg, which is a book I've read and recommend.
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This video Jonathan Jones shows us the basic exercise while sitting: https://youtu.be/V5SWA60NIpM
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In this video Sukie Baxter actually shows the lying down version: https://youtu.be/eFV0FfMc_uo, which is the version I use most often
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In this video Dr. Emily Splichal shows a couple of other related exercises: https://youtu.be/NAlzElw-ISo
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RESOURCES FROM MARSHALL ROSENBERG, FOUNDER OF THE CENTER FOR NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION
Nonviolent Communication from Audible.com – Audio book
Nonviolent Communication – physical book you can hold in your hand
Facebook page dedicated to quotes from Marshall: https://www.facebook.com/groups/wordsandteachingsofmarshallrosenberg
Daylong workshop (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2KkOPZfn_Y)
Research, Studies, Neuroscience:
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A growing body of research reports, academic communications and publications on Nonviolent Communication…read more
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Putting Feelings Into Words Produces Therapeutic Effects In The Brain
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19 Factors That May Stimulate Your Vagus Nerve Naturally
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A Vagus Nerve Survival Guide to Combat Fight-or-Flight Urges
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New Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You Happy
Therapists in the Bay Area who are supportive of Nonviolent Communication
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Ali Miller MFT - alimillermft.com
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Robert Solley, Ph.D. - solutions4couples.com
Other Bay-Area-based NVC Practitioners
Social Justice and Nonviolent Communication
In the Monday evening Communication Dojo drop-ins we do not spend a lot of time on any specific issues or on the experiences of any particular individual. Instead we work on NVC-related skill-building, habit change and shifting our consciousness, with a view to giving those in attendance greater facility with NVC regardless of the specific topic or context of a conversation.
Participants choose their own situations and topics to work on during practice exercises, and sometimes participants choose to work on issues related to social justice, or to ask questions related to NVC and social justice.
Social justice was very much at the heart of Marshall Rosenberg's work, and there are NVC events and retreats, websites and articles, where this is the specific focus. An online search will bring you to many such resources. Here are a few starting points.
Roxy Manning's site: Roxy Manning Ph.D.
Roxy Manning's blog, starting with "Viewing Needs through an equity lens"
(My connection to Roxy is that we are colleagues through Bay Area Nonviolent Communication, and have worked together)
Miki Kashtan's blog: The Fearless Heart
(My connection to Miki is that we are colleagues through Bay Area Nonviolent Communication, and have worked together)
POC4NVC is an organization for people of color who practice, innovate, and share Nonviolence and Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as a powerful way to respond to and transform racism, privilege and oppression at the individual and systemic levels. https://www.poc4nvc.org/
An article with practical suggestions on how to support an end to systemic racism: 10 Simple Ways White People Can Step Up to Fight Everyday Racism (This article is makes no reference to NVC. However, it reads to me as an article that's deeply steeped in empathy.)
Another article with practical suggestions: 75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice - Equality Includes You (This article is on medium.com, and is therefore may be subject to their limitations on how many articles they allow you to read per month, if you're not a paid subscriber)
A listing of black-owned businesses.
Mental Health Issues Facing the Black Community link provided by
Edgardo Ocampo, Community Outreach Director, Sunshine Behavioral Health, Clinton Twp, MI 48038
Overcoming Addictions:
Addiction tends to diminish joy in life, over time, even if it initially brings benefit. Here’s a list of resources. (I’m not in any way affiliated with any of these organizations or companies).
There are well-known programs to help with addiction like Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous or for those who are, or have been, in close relationship with alcoholics Al-Anon.
A resource on quitting smoking: https://online.maryville.edu/healthcare-degrees/smoking-among-college-students/
Read about a new approach to addiction recovery, based on mindfulness, at The Kiloby Center
There are now a variety of growing addictions related to internet usage. Here are a few resources if you think you might be addicted to an online activity.
The FocusMe app allows you to effectively block yourself from certain sites or apps, or just to limit your time on those sites or apps. You can even create a password that you share with a friend.
This is great for limiting game playing, social media surfing, Netflix binging, pornography usage and anything else you want to limit, including particular apps on your computer.
The Your Brain on Porn site makes a strong science-based case for why you might want to serious consider removing porn usage from your life, plus a community of people who’re trying to do the same.
GameQuitters.com helps those with video game addiction.
Working with Pain:
Pain can make it harder to communicate effectively. Over the years I've sought help with back pain, neck pain, wrist pain, knee pain and foot pain. I've benefitted hugely from the following resources and practitioners:
The Triggerpoint Therapy Workbook by Davies and Davies
The Roll Model by Jill Miller
Acupuncture and Traditional Chinese Herbal Medicine with Catie Lowder
Neuromuscular Therapy with Thatcher Hayward
Feldenkrais - Online audio classes